How many couples are approaching Christmas with an increasing feeling of dread and anxiety, as their arguments increase and the tension and stress causes daily conflict? Relationships in crisis?
As a couples/relationship counsellor, I know that there are very few relationships where there is never any conflict. Most couples will have the occasional fall-out over something which seems quite trivial and there may be occasional bickering.
For some couples, they have lost sight of who they were when they first met, because they are struggling to balance all of the different roles that they have now assumed; they lose sense of their own identity and they cannot seem to relate to their partner in that same way as when they had fewer responsibilities. In short, couples can become distanced from each other and can lose all of the fun and intimacy which they previously had in their relationship.
I became a counsellor/psychotherapist because I wanted to help people. I love being able to help couples and individuals to identify the issues that need resolving within their relationships and then helping them to resolve those issues.
While not all issues have a quick resolution, I am here to help you to improve your situation and to help you to move forward in a positive way.
I think that this Christmas, especially, is, probably, going to be even more difficult for lots of families – and for couples who are struggling with all of their different roles and responsibilities! When you are struggling within your relationship, it becomes even more difficult to cope with other pressures, such as economic hardship.
In my experience, couples very often lose their ability to communicate openly and honestly with each other- and they often become frustrated or angry, then turn to blaming their partner, which only makes the situation worse.
You may try to work through your problems alone, or confide in a friend, but it can be so much more effective and helpful to seek outside support, from a trained professional who will listen to you both impartially, and non-judgementally.
I can help you to deal with issues such as a lack of trust following an affair, anger management issues, poor communication within the relationship, lack of respect for each other, blame or constant criticism, sexual difficulties or anything that creates conflict in the relationship.
Whatever is the cause of relationship problems, these issues can be resolved and the relationship can be repaired, if all of the people involved truly want this to happen – and they are prepared to make the necessary changes for improvement.
Couples counselling is so very useful when people feel that they are either stuck, and cannot find a way out, or they are overwhelmed and drowning in stress within the relationship.
At this point, it really does help to engage in couples therapy, so that you can find alternative and more effective ways of behaving towards each other and more helpful ways of coping with your joint problems/issues.
You will need to be prepared to put in some time and effort, of course, but you will be helped and given encouragement and guidance, in order to achieve the changes and improvement in your relationship which will lead to a happier life for you.
Please do not hesitate to ask for help with your relationship issues.
Don’t worry about calling for help over Christmas, and don’t delay, if you have reached that place where you are at ‘the end of your tether’.
Call Diane now on 07913979561 or on 01422 321412 or complete a CONTACT FORM.
You can have a free 20-minutes initial consultation.